So, let's get this out of the way. You're dying tomorrow but your kid is too young to understand what you're saying. You have 1 day to put down in writing what you've understood to be most important and/or essential in life or to who and what you are*. This is not going to be well-scripted or well-edited. Actually, it'll probably seem like a lot of rambling, at least at first, before the reader has had time to study the contents more carefully; perhaps over the course of many years... You know, you'd hoped to have years to write your story, perhaps after you turned 56** or something, but the time never came and now it's too late. As a matter of fact, you might still survive until the next day but let's face it: if something did happen tomorrow, you wouldn't have something in writing to show for it. So, like i said, let's get this out of the way; as a kind of insurance or will; you may not have anything else worthwhile to divide after you go but you got your mind, right?


Books. Ya gotta read books; but not just any books and not just a lot. My whole life i've been led by first impressions. That might sound shallow but there's actually a good reason why that works. It has to do with human shit i'll get to later. There are good and bad authors and the good and the bad shows in every paragraph, if not in every sentence. Logical; if your head's a mess and you write a book, it's gonna show constantly, just like stupid people constantly talk shit while others (hardly ever/)never do. Anyway, i've gone entire years without reading a book because i couldn't find one that passed one simple test: can you read 1 or 2 paragraphs without running into something that's annoying? Now, that's personal and it worked well for me because of my particular conditioning. In general, however, it could work for anyone; simply put, if you find yourself having to be patient, tolerant, making leaps of faith, or making excuses for what you read,, it's shit and the whole book will be like that. There are too many books to waste your time on poorly written ones. Not only that (and this is an extension of the previously stated logic), but good authors tend to offer you all the information supplied by bad authors anyway. It's in their nature; they're thorough, just like the bad authors should have been.
So. Read books. I will be recommending books here and i've assembled a small library of what i consider extremely relevant ones. The choice of books in my (quite physical) library, or list of books, is the result of a life lived according to the above principle of reading what seems worthwhile to read in the first place. The books i've learned that were worthwhile i've come across as a matter of chance, luck, curiosity, logic, and/or advice. However, for every book on that list, there are at least 10 books that i've read that i did not put on the list, i.e. well-written but not interesting enough to waste anyone else's time with; therefore, it would be a mistake to think that one should be able to judge the value of the books i list, or of the list itself, based on some superficial or popular consideration or other; each one is there for a damn good reason.


One of the most important books in the world is The Billings Method. It will tell you how to avoid becoming a parent when you're not aiming to and how to do so naturally; both aspects of pregnancy are extremely important to any person individually and to society and mankind as a whole. Being stuck with a child (for 2 decades) when you are not ready for it or not able to care for it as you might like, are among the most destructive forces in life. It might be compared to lighting a bonfire in your house: there's a time and a place for things. Fire can save your life or it can give you an excruciating death; it's about respect. Because of the very human and appropriate tendency to put all else aside in order to properly care for one's young, it is paramount that children do not disrupt what must be done first. That's not selfish and, in fact, if you consider that getting things done that need to be done before one becomes a parent is useful, that use extends to one's children as well. First things first or all involved pay.
The Billings Method on it's own could change the world, if such knowledge actually had a way to reach the masses; imagine people who's lives are not ruled by the need to feed, care for, and school their children. As well, imagine a world in which one's knowledge made the act of having sex completely separate from having children. Most cultures in the world are ruled by procreation issues. True freedom, for individuals as well as for societies, lies first and foremost in the very basic knowledge of how to naturally postpone pregnancy until it is opportune. Such freedom can also lead to other powerful tools of freedom and humanity, as well, that i'll be getting into later.


The world is divided into 2 kinds of people, which are explained by 2 extremely important books: Alice Miller's Thou Shalt Not Be Aware [Du Sollst Nicht Merken] and Peter Kropotkin's Mutual Aid. The divide is expressed by the famous Milgram Experiment in which it turns out that 75% of people are willing and able to torture complete strangers to death when so compelled by an authority figure, while 25% refuse. Alice Miller's decades of research explain why and how the 75% are capable of their inhumanities, while Kropotkin's work [his life work of interspecies research] explains why 25% are capable of empathy (where the 75% turn out to be INcapable of it).


* Like in the 1984 movie Best Defense with Eddie Murphy and Dudley Moore; at 54 minutes into the movie the character played by Dudley Moore says:
"if this doesn't go right and something happens to me
i never got a chance to give my son more than the fatherly advice and the bits of wisdom i've picked up through the years like...
never pass up an opportunity to take a piss
mutual funds are the worst
fat girls tend to come a lot"

** While studying numerology as a teenager i learned that there are 28-year life cycles we all go through. In the first 28 years one is focused on acquiring information and impressions; during the second 28 years, i.e. from 29 to 56 years of age, one is busy putting to practical use what one acquired in the first 28-year period. At about 56 years of age it is quite natural to start the period of looking back, digesting what the previous 56 years meant to you. A lot of people start writing their memoirs around this time.
(If you make it to 84, the period of learning should come around again and one's mind will again become quite inquisitive and hyper-interested in new information and impressions.)

I have experienced personally how this works. For instance, while i was at university studying Chinese, i once learned to read and write 400 Chinese characters during a long weekend. Back then i could just stick my head in a book and soak up information like a sponge. I cannot imagine doing but a fraction of this today though i've obviously not become stupid or anything.



The S.E.E.D.